By Alexander Prisant
Don't feel too good about yourself or your country just because something akin to a chaotic "national debate" is now taking place in America about violence. What's going on here is something I call "The Dombrowsky Effect".
Condie Dombrowsky was a friend of one of my younger brothers. He must have been 11 or 12. Almost every morning Condie rode his bike to school across a small white bridge that spanned an inlet in Great Neck, New York. The bridge was white and sturdy. But it was also insidious, because of its width. It was the width from hell.
It was probably built when two horses could pass on this two-way road. But now we were decades into the car age and this bridge could only take one whole car and maybe half the width of another. To drivers with lousy eyesight or worse judgment it looked tempting to think they could just squeeze by that guy coming the other way, without waiting a whole 20 seconds for the other driver to pass.
All the locals knew this bridge well. All the locals thought this was a catastrophe waiting to happen. There was town chatter every few years when an accident on the bridge caused an injury. But there was no fatality on that bridge for 15-20 years. So all that happened was everyone, every time, said "Somebody must do something!" And then nobody did anything.
Until the morning Condie Dombrowsky rode onto that bridge for the final time. He was clipped from behind by a car a little out of control . It flung him off the bike and crushed him against the side of the bridge. My brother's young friend died on the spot.
Human nature finally kicked in. Actual mortality brought actual action. The same townspeople, the same municipal leaders who'd failed Condie Dombrowsky in life, swiftly acted upon his death. Within two years, a new wider, safer span was built across that inlet from Great Neck into Kings Point. There had always been funding and resources available before. What Condie provided now was "will".
Today, 40 years later, we are weary, more desensitized, having lived through political assassinations, the 9/11 attacks, half of the bloodiest mass murders in US history in the past five years and almost 80 murders and suicides nationally every day. Every day. So now it takes hundreds of Condie Dombowskys to get us off the national couch.
This one is not as easy to fix as widening a bridge. Will we initiate action on a number of things that might at least reduce the size and dimension of American murders? Stay tuned.










